Tuesday, October 13, 2015

STRAIGHT FROM THE FOX'S MOUTH

Stay In the Ring!

Some things in life come with unexpected, very tough blows. When those tragedies happen and unforeseen trials come, it can rock our entire world. You can feel hopeless and defeated. It's never easy, but I have found that the only way to win is to not let discouragement and despair take over. That, in itself, is truly the biggest fight of all. How do you beat down these foes, you ask? You've heard it time and time again, and I'll say it again: we must never give up. As hard as it seems, if you fight back, somehow, some way, you can win.

Let's start here. You ready? Put on your fighting gloves. Here are a few strategies for FIGHTING BACK:
  • It's YOUR fight. Try to catch your breath. Deal with the pain. Patch yourself up. Whine, cry, fuss, cuss, throw a fit, and then get yourself mentally ready to come up with a fighting plan. Whatever you do, remember that giving up isn't a plan. It's quitting. Don't give in. Don't give up. 
  • You can conquer it. This doesn't mean that every problem disappears with a swift knockout punch. Some do. Some don't. Conquering means that you managed to keep your footing in spite of what happened. It means that you fought off discouragement, failure and defeat. You didn't let the challenge consume your ability to move forward in life. 
  • A little "fight" can go a long way. I can remember one of my lowest points in life. I could barely think a moment past the pain and difficulty. It felt like more than I could ever bear, but somehow I told myself that I could do it. I had to dig real deep, but I found an inkling, and I do mean just an inkling of strength. I told myself not to think about tomorrow, or next week, or next year, or anytime futuristic. I told myself to just think about right now, this moment and this second. It was a long journey, but one second went into another. Those seconds turned into minutes, those minutes into hours and days and weeks and years. I survived because I fought little by little to get back into life. You can, too. Fight little by little if you have to. Ultimately, you will win if you stay in the ring. ~ S.R.F.
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Monday, June 15, 2015

STRAIGHT FROM THE FOX'S MOUTH

Finding Your "FAIR"

Is life fair? What do you think? Indeed, it is a "fair" question, so let's look at it.

It sure seems like some folks have more "privilege" than others. It's obvious that some people are rich while others constantly struggle financially. It appears that opportunities that come to some just don't seem to come to all. However, to say that this is unfair may well depend on your view of things rather than the actual view of reality.

Perhaps, too much time is spent on the idea of what others do and have. The truth is, the manner and means by which "they" have acquired their success and money required some planning, hard work and sweat. Somewhere down the road somebody did the work. Few things come easy. Onlookers think so because we mostly see the results of their aspirations and labor, not the time and toil that was put into it.

What is FAIR? Keep It Real
Let's keep it really real. What do YOU want? What is it that you need to get out of life that  will make you feel you've gotten what is "supposed to" come to you? Once you answer and analyze that question, and if you are really being honest with yourself, you will realize that whatever it is, in all probability is very doable. It's "YOUable".  My point is, YOU have to find YOUR "fair", not somebody else's "fair". As much as you would like to blame people, circumstances, your environment, biases, culture, etc., for the things that seem unfair, you and only you must deal with the question of how you find "what is fair for you?"

Find YOUR Fair
Do you need to break down a barrier at work to go up the ladder ? Do you need to fight for a special consideration to move ahead? Do you need to work and strategize more to grow your business? Do you need to dream bigger to achieve greater status? Shoot higher to attain your goals? Do you need to change your thinking to see that you have possibility and potential within your grasp? All are valid questions. The answer is: find out what YOU need to do to get what you want and need, and you will find YOUR "fair".

Maximize Your Fair Chance
Success stories are all across the spectrum. You see people who started with absolutely nothing but a hope, dream and energy. You see others who took advantage of the way being paved for them. Regardless of where you are, you can maximize your chance at life. You can go after what you need and want. You can go and get your "fair" share of the pie.  If you believe that others have a  better advantage than you, rather than taking advantage of your possibilities, you will always position yourself at a disadvantage. The race is not given to the swift, or the battle to the strong, but to those who keep trying until they get to the finish line. You know what that means? It means that anyone has the chance to get to their very own victory if they keep going.

Avoid the Excuse that "Life Just Isn't Fair"
Whatever you do, DON'T MAKE EXCUSES:
  • Don't allow yourself to be held back by old belief systems in your thinking and actions. Possibility thinking is key to getting what you feel you deserve. Believe you can have it and act on it.
  • Don't allow yourself to put obstacles in your pathway that are not really there. Whatever you tell yourself is in your way, it is there until you decide it's not.
  • Don't allow yourself to be put in a corner by stereotyping yourself or anyone else. Instead, maximize everything in you. What that means is that your focus, your time and your energy will have to go toward the results you're wanting to bring about.
Maximum efforts will produce maximum results. When you put pressure on the gas pedal in your car, you only go as fast as you determine. You will go 20 MPH when you apply light pressure, but when you really put the pedal to the metal, you're moving at a higher speed, you gain more ground faster. How fast or slow you go is up to you. Just remember, you are the only one behind the wheel. It's your race. The opportunity to finish your course is up to you. Imagine that, a finish line where everybody wins. That's fair enough, don't you think?

They don't call me "THE FOX" for nothing. ~ S.R.F.  

Silver Rae Fox is a writer and author, speaker, and host of "FOXOLOGY TODAY" on Blog Talk Radio. For speaking engagements and interviews, or additional information, email: SILVER@silverraefox.com. 


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Tuesday, February 3, 2015

STRAIGHT FROM THE FOX'S MOUTH

From Setback to Comeback: The Journey Up

 

Nearly everyone has faced a setback. It's often one of the most challenging events anyone has to deal with. There are a myriad of problems and difficulties that can take us there, but there are also numerous strategies than can help us bounce back. You've heard it said that "it ain't over until it's over". Well, that's very true. You have to get your "wind" and begin again. It's rarely simple, but you can get back on your feet and begin your journey upward.

There are three important questions to ask yourself:

1.  "What happened?" Get a real picture, a true perspective of what occurred, and the current situation as it is. Facing it may be hard, but staying where you are will probably be even harder. You may be feeling shock, disappointment, surprise or despair. However, try to press through the foggy thinking and emotions to the place where you can answer the question as logically as you can. When you can address "what happened?" with the right answer, you'll likely address the situation with the right solutions.

2.  Next, ask "Is this fixable?" Most things are. Try not to make the mistake of believing something can't be fixed that really can. It may take time. It may take a lot of effort. It may take a mental or emotional shift. It may take money. It may take a lot of support from others. It may take changing your life. It may take changing your perspective. Whatever it takes, make an all-out effort to fix what can be fixed.

3.  This question is probably the most important: "Where is up?" You will  have to decide what to do, and where you are trying to get to. What does the comeback look like? Think it out and map it out. The climb may not be easy, but you'll be stronger, tougher and smarter as a result of trucking the course.

4.  You will need to be brave and courageous. Most of all, you will need faith, especially in yourself. Do the inner work. No one feels great during a difficulty or a setback, but the real journey up begins within. Build up your strength. Tell yourself you can do it. Build up your courage. Tell yourself you can win. Build up your faith. Tell yourself you have what it takes to make the climb. Truth is, you really do.

Setbacks don't have to be the end of the story. It's only a chapter in your life. Someday, when you look back, you'll see that very clearly. It will be when and where you flipped the page and decided to look up.

They don't call me "THE FOX" for nothing. ~ S.R.F.  

Silver Rae Fox is a writer and author, speaker, and host of "FOXOLOGY TODAY" on Blog Talk Radio. For speaking engagements and interviews, or additional information, email: SILVER@silverraefox.com. 


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Saturday, January 3, 2015

STRAIGHT FROM THE FOX'S MOUTH

The Top Ten Exercises for Shaping Up Your Life in 2015


Getting into the best "shape" of your life can mean so much more than anything a diet or gym can fix. What about "shaping up" in all the important aspects of daily life? Here are my top ten "fitness" tips for the year ahead:

1. First, decide what a tip-top life looks like for you. Write it down. Put your pictures of that ideal life on a bulletin board or dream board. Put reminders everywhere. Put messages on everything. Then, put your mind to work on what your vision is.

2.  Lose the fat. Cut out anything that doesn't contribute positively to your mental and emotional well-being. If it drains you and depletes you of joy and excitement, then it needs to be evaluated, calculated, and probably eliminated.

3.  Make new and better choices. Decide what needs to be done to elevate your life to a "healthier" status. Make the small changes constantly. Tackle and make the bigger changes with wisdom, and strategically. Think through every move you make. Ask yourself if it's helping you get to a better place or not. If it's not, don't do it.

4.  Create new routines. The same old thing is never going to bring you a new result. If you want some new opportunities, new happenings or new people in your life, you will have to create new routines, new places to go, and new environments to socialize and do business in. It's that simple.

5.  Do it anyway. You may not feel like disciplining yourself to do all this, but get over yourself and push through the tougher days. It is amazing how you feel when you go ahead and do something that you thought you couldn't. You'll feel energized and empowered almost immediately.

6.  Change "exercises" when you need to. When you get it together in one area, work on the next area that you want to see tightened up. You paid off your bills. Maybe now you can start planning for that dream vacation, new home or business. 

7.  Increase your workouts. Do more to reach your goals than you did the prior month. Put a few more minutes of time and effort into your 2015 projects as you go. You will surprise yourself when you see how much you can get done in thirty minutes, an hour or a day. Each effort takes you another step toward your finish line.

8.  Check yourself. Is it working? Take a look at things and see if it is really paying off for you. Do you see results? Do you see your work manifesting into the vision of your future? Checkpoints are necessary. They let you know when to move forward, slow down, reassess, or stop and change the plan.

9.  Praise yourself. Everyday give yourself credit for wanting a better life for yourself. Even if you do only a little thing each day, you deserve the acknowledgement that comes with that. Tell yourself that you are doing a fabulous job, and continue to enjoy your bold, new journey.

10. Stick to it. It's only January, but before you know it, it will be that time when we start looking at resolutions again. Stick to your guns. This December you'll be excited and not frustrated that you're having to rewrite the same goals over again. Stick with your ideal plan, and at this year's end you will have a truly incredible YOU to celebrate!

They don't call me "THE FOX" for nothing. ~ S.R.F.  

Silver Rae Fox is a writer and author, speaker, and host of "FOXOLOGY TODAY" on Blog Talk Radio. For speaking engagements and interviews, or additional information, email: SILVER@silverraefox.com. 

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