Thursday, October 5, 2017


We are making decisions all the time. When to get up, what to wear, what road to take, where to stop for coffee, what to buy, who to date, who to marry, how many kids to have, where to live, what house to buy, when to change jobs, etc., etc., etc. It's daily throughout our lives that we are always making a choice about something.

We're always making decisions. We worry if it's going to be the right one.
Decision-making comes easier for some than others. Some people are very decisive, they know exactly what they want, when they want it, and they know what they have to do to get it. Others are very challenged when it comes to making decisions. They often lack confidence and trust in their own ability to decide, and therefore find themselves "twixt and between" decisiveness and indecision when faced with matters of challenge or change, and usually getting nowhere.

Someone once schooled me with the thought that making a decision, even if it's the wrong one, is better than making no decision at all. It was great advice. The state of indecision can be, and is very exhausting mentally and emotionally. You want this house, but you like that house, too. You want to move out of state, but when and where? You want a new job, but should you really look for another one? Should I? Maybe? How? What? When? Where? It can be a terrible tap dance to our mentality if we don't make some kind of move from that place in our thinking.

How do you go about training yourself to be decisive? How do you teach yourself to say something to yourself to affirm what you should do? Here's one way: you dare to go ahead and make the decision, and stick to it. What happens as a result is rewarding: you immediately shut down the back-and-forth bantering going on inside your head. You immediately put yourself in position to pursue what you want, or don't want. And, here's the biggie: you put yourself at peace. That warring in your emotions is over. You've decided, at least for now. And, if it happens to turn out that you made the wrong decision, you can always decide on something else. That's the beauty that comes with decisiveness. You have the power of choice, so have no fear. ~ S.R.F.

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