Thursday, October 5, 2017

DECISIONS, DECISIONS: HAVE NO FEAR

We are making decisions all the time. When to get up, what to wear, what road to take, where to stop for coffee, what to buy, who to date, who to marry, how many kids to have, where to live, what house to buy, when to change jobs, etc., etc., etc. It's daily throughout our lives that we are always making a choice about something.

We're always making decisions. We worry if it's going to be the right one.
Decision-making comes easier for some than others. Some people are very decisive, they know exactly what they want, when they want it, and they know what they have to do to get it. Others are very challenged when it comes to making decisions. They often lack confidence and trust in their own ability to decide, and therefore find themselves "twixt and between" decisiveness and indecision when faced with matters of challenge or change, and usually getting nowhere.

Someone once schooled me with the thought that making a decision, even if it's the wrong one, is better than making no decision at all. It was great advice. The state of indecision can be, and is very exhausting mentally and emotionally. You want this house, but you like that house, too. You want to move out of state, but when and where? You want a new job, but should you really look for another one? Should I? Maybe? How? What? When? Where? It can be a terrible tap dance to our mentality if we don't make some kind of move from that place in our thinking.

How do you go about training yourself to be decisive? How do you teach yourself to say something to yourself to affirm what you should do? Here's one way: you dare to go ahead and make the decision, and stick to it. What happens as a result is rewarding: you immediately shut down the back-and-forth bantering going on inside your head. You immediately put yourself in position to pursue what you want, or don't want. And, here's the biggie: you put yourself at peace. That warring in your emotions is over. You've decided, at least for now. And, if it happens to turn out that you made the wrong decision, you can always decide on something else. That's the beauty that comes with decisiveness. You have the power of choice, so have no fear. ~ S.R.F.

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Saturday, September 2, 2017

IT'S A PROCESS

It's a process, and when you work the process, the process will work for you.
So many times when we are planning and pursuing things in life, we wish we didn't have to work so hard along the way until something visibly manifests for us. That's the story, that's the deal. That is simply the way it is so much of the time. Things take time to occur, to develop and succeed, and there is always a process involved.

In many cases, timing may play a huge factor. The "time" doesn't come until we have done all of the necessary steps to get to what it is we want. Have you realized that there are no shortcuts to success? It's really true. We wish there were ways that were shorter, quicker and easier, but usually there are not. You have to put in the work, and when you do, eventually the time comes when it all comes together. You realize at that point, that you took the steps, made the sacrifices and made it happen. That's how it works. It's a process, and when you work it, it will work for you. ~ S.R.F.

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Wednesday, August 9, 2017

MAKING THINGS HAPPEN

Making things happen isn't always easy. It sounds very catchy and motivating when someone who's trying to encourage us says it: "Hey, make it happen!" Yeah, okay. Sure. Great. That's awesome, right? You hear what they said, but your big challenge is wrapping your head around a strategy. However sincere their intention was, sometimes we're left wondering "But, how?"

I believe in making things happen, whenever possible. I have to admit that theory has both worked for me and against me at times. I'm a person who can see the planned end from the beginning easily, so strategizing usually comes simple for me. The problem comes in when your timing may be off, or maybe "I wasn't supposed to do this 'thing' in the first place." Yep, that could happen.

I've learned the hard way to be very analytical about what is actually supposed to manifest in my life. I had to. I have ideas rolling around in my head all the time, so now I'm seriously careful about what I'm to choose for launching. I love creating projects, and I have very often. Some went well and others played out rather quickly, and sometimes sadly. It's the price you pay when you make your choices without the appropriate consideration and planning. Everything that looks good and sounds good, won't necessarily turn out well, and it can be tricky trying to make the best decision.

In choosing what to make happen, several things can be considered:


Why? 

Why should you make "it" happen? Why should you do it? Why does it matter? If you come up with great answers to these questions, then you've found all the reasons you need to keep processing your idea in your head.

Do you have the knowledge? 

Do you have the experience? Do you have a good understanding of what you're about to undertake? If not, get to work on that. Read. Talk to people. Find out what the "hidden" parts are, things that aren't obvious or on the surface regarding your idea. Otherwise, you may be looking frustration and failure square in the face. The good news is that you'll learn something from that, too.

Remember that things have a natural order. 

You can't put the cart before the horse and think you'll move forward successfully. I can assure you that even when you plan adequately, you will still face missteps, disadvantages and surprises. It's all a part of learning the "order" you need to construct and follow. Plans change, and they should, but it doesn't mean start without one. You need one, and you will need to stay open-minded enough to know how to make adjustments however and whenever you need to. The moment you say "this is not how this should be going" is a key indication that something went wrong, or that you're being directed to "order" things differently. Think it through, and determine what you should do next, and better.

Define your success for yourself.

If you're shooting to be among the "five-percenters" who are the richest in the world, that's great and it's not impossible either. Be well aware, that's not the only indication of success. If you want to go back to school and get a diploma or degree and you do it, that's success! If you are looking to start a business and you do, that's success! Whatever the goal is, satisfy your own craving. Satisfy the goal that's in your heart. The process of achievement, advancement and attaining things in life is not necessarily measured by just having money. There are many, many very happy people who are not mega-millionaires. Of course, you'll want enough prosperity to meet your needs, and hopefully the needs of others, too; however, don't get trapped into thinking you're not successful if you didn't land a spot in Forbes. Measure your own happiness and satisfaction, as well as what's in your bank account to come up with your own formula that equals success.

Make It Happen!

To do or not to do? Some things will come to us. Some things fall right into our laps. For most of us, though, we will need to create a step-by-step agenda to make things happen. We will have to be logical and strategic. We will have to learn, try and test things. Regardless of how you approach it, the "making it happen" process is always rewarding. Yes, frustrating at times. Yes, challenging at other times. Yes, you will throw your hands up in the air sometimes. It's all a part of the process, and here's the best part: Once it's all said and done, to be able to say "I did it!" feels like the best day of your life. ~ S.R.F.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Declare Your Independence!

Are you "handcuffed" to negativity?

Negativity is all around us. We can easily get sucked into things that, in the big picture, do not concern us: other people's business; becoming mentally and emotionally involved in the issues impacting work; allowing ourselves to be tossed to and from by society's concept of anything and everything. Those are just some of the things that bring on loads of negativity, and we can find ourselves imprisoned by all of it.


Free yourself!

As much as it may feel like it's somebody else's fault and responsibility, we are the only one who can cut the cuffs off. It may require disassociation from everything and every person who brings you chaos, drama, negativity and pain. It's pretty incredible how effective that one move is toward freeing yourself! If you block the causes, you will find yourself heading toward new territory: peace, balance and harmony.

Take the limitations off!

If you are locked-in by other people's plans and opinions of you, you can give yourself permission to walk away from that bondage. Set your own goals. Dream your own dreams. Chart your own path. You don't need someone else's approval or okay to do what you want to do. I don't mean that you don't share and discuss what is in your heart with the people who are important and significant in your life. Of course, you should. It's wise to do so. But the bottom line is, that it's your life to live, to enjoy, to rise and fall, to make mistakes and fail, and to make things happen and gain success. You don't need a committee to tell you what you feel you are designed to do, or what you know in your heart is your destiny. 

There may be times when even those close to you don't get it, and won't provide the encouragement you hope for. Don't let that stop you or limit you. Your only limitations are the ones you place on yourself, and you can take those limitations off. It can be a unanimous decision: a committee of one, you, making the most important vote to be free, TO BE FREE. Do it, and declare your independence! ~ S.R.F.

Saturday, June 17, 2017

Is HAPPINESS Really A Choice?

It's Doable

The times in my life when I felt unhappy certainly didn't feel like it was a choice I made to be that way. Stuff happened that disappointed me. Things occurred that caused discouragement and fear. Challenges faced me that were great, and I felt far distanced from anything called happiness back then. So, if unhappiness wasn't a choice I made, how could I possibly be happy just by making the choice to be? It sounds perplexing to our understanding when we first hear it. Well, because, truly it is. It's perplexing, but it is doable.

If it's a mess, it's a mess.

I'm not one who tries to make a situation something that it isn't. If things are a "mess," they just are a mess. There is no other way to change the color or smell of some issues, no matter what you tell yourself. There is good news, though. You don't have to let the mess or messiness gauge everything you think about everything. Like everyone else, I have cares and concerns about life and the people in my life who are most important to me. I have issues to overcome that I know will add to my degree of happiness and satisfaction when they are no longer issues I have to deal with. I have had enough hurt and heartache that could cause permanent scars and states of depression if I wasn't built God-tough. However, in the great majority of problems I have faced, I made a conscious decision not to be brought down by them. I don't mean that I rose up saying "I am woman! Hear me roar!" I feel like a true lioness most of the time, but that's not how I always respond to things when heaviness looms.

It works.

There were times when I could only listen to my next breath to know that I was even still alive. In that breath, I could also tell myself that I could keep it moving, slowly but surely, and I did. If I couldn't find the smile within, I looked for the things that would make me smile. It always worked. It was a choice. It still is a choice.

Make the decision.

As much as we can pretend to be superhuman, we are not. There is no magic or magic formulas for conquering the crazy things that come our way. We can only teach and train ourselves to make decisions in our own best interest and futures; so then, yes definitely, happiness really is a choice. We decide. I hope you make the decision to choose it, too. You deserve it. ~ S.R.F.


Sunday, May 14, 2017

Our "S.O.S." The Need For Help In Times Of Distress

S.O.S.: Something's Outta Sync! Help!

We've all been there. We've all experienced those times when we wanted to scream to the top of our lungs, "somebody, please help me!" The experiences themselves may vary, the the cry for assistance sounds very much the same. Here's what I've learned:

1. "S": Screaming and shouting only works if someone can hear you. SAY what you need! Talk to someone or go to a place that can provide help. If no one hears your pain or cries, no one can show up. But, know this: everyone isn't going to help, or feel compelled to help. Some people could care less. Some people will judge you. Some people will enjoy your pain. Some people will laugh and ridicule you. That's some tough information to absorb, I know, but it's the truth, and it's the very reason that so many people who need help from others will suffer in silence. However, the ones who don't help you don't matter. Someone will. There are a lot of very compassionate people out there who find joy and satisfaction from being a help and comfort to people. Look for them, because they can help bridge the gap from where you are to where you need to be, back on solid ground.

2. "O": Things are going to be OKAY. I know it's hard to believe that when things are out of sync in your life. It may be family matters. It may be your job. It may be money. It may be a diagnosis. It may be heartbreak. It may be just about anything. Here's the deal, though: I'm sure you've heard the saying, "if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger." I'm not one who likes to attach flippant cliches to anything, but this one holds a valuable truth. If we can stop saying "this is killing me" or "I'd rather be dead than go through this" or "this is going to be the death of me," and start saying "SOMEHOW, SOME WAY I am going to be OKAY. I don't have all the answers to it all, but I know I can make it through this, and I AM GOING TO BE OKAY." I can promise you that you will not have all the information or the answers you need when you say this, but the point is you are convincing yourself that regardless of how, when, what, or who comes to your aid, YOU WILL BE OKAY until you really are okay. And, at some point you will be, and you'll be a lot stronger, too.

3. "S": SEEK and you will find. Your mind may try to convince you that there is no way out of your current woes. Unfortunately, that mindset will force you into a negative place that will stymie your ability to do forward thinking or movement. When we are in the midst of our difficulties and challenges the last thing we need to be doing is allowing ourselves to be swallowed up in it. I know how earth shaking some problems are, how devastating situations can become. I know how these things can blind you to reality. Truth is, if we can start SEEKING different information, we can find different solutions to whatever it is we are facing. We have to get up, even when our heart is hurting. We have to move forward, even when the pressure is seeming to crush us up against the wall. We have to seek out positive answers to all of the negativity that seems to unload itself upon us. SEEK AND YOU WILL FIND. If you don't look for what brings help, you won't find it. It takes only a small degree of faith to get you started in the direction you need to go in. You may even get knocked back or down again while you're trying. A setback doesn't mean you should not keep trying. It means you should keep SEEKING until you are where you need to be mentally and emotionally.

Something's outta sync in your life. I get it. I've been there more times than I can count. One thing I can tell you is this: I'm certainly not down for the count. Stay in the ring. Fight it out. Let people that can help you know what it is you need. Tell yourself that you will be okay. Seek out every positive answer and avenue available to you. Hang in there. Help is available when you do these things. You'll see that this is true, and you just may find that there are many wonderful and overwhelming responses to your "S.O.S." ~ S.R.F.


Sunday, April 16, 2017

In The Face of Discouragment

Go "Face Forward"

Many things in life can cause us to feel discouraged. It may be a small disappointment or a great defeat. Our feelings of discouragement can surface on either end of the spectrum and on many points and places in between. When those challenges meet us face-to-face, we shouldn't chose to run or hide. Our most courageous choice is to move face forward toward handling our emotions and rising to a better place in our thinking, living and doing.

Your discouragement may be an opportunity for discovery. 
If we dare take a close look at our "why" we can discover our "what." I remember someone saying that if we don't ask ourselves the right questions, we won't give ourselves the right answers. Ask "Why am I feeling this way?" When you know your answer, ask "What is my remedy?" Is it a loss you've faced? Is it a break-up? Is it grief? Is it financial? Are you unhappy about your relationship? Are you lonely or alone? The "what to do" begins with the self-discovery that there is a pathway through it, and not just sometimes, always. Answer your "why" with self-introspection and self-investigation. Be honest, vulnerable and transparent with yourself. Get to the root of it. When you find out your truth, you can begin to address your what effectively.

Be persistent with yourself, but loving and patient at the same time. However, remember that you won't move face-forward with your head down. You won't move face-forward with your head buried in a pillow. You won't move face-forward with your eyes closed hoping it will all go away. You must move face-forward a breath at a time, a moment at a time, a day at a time, looking with eyes wide open toward the place in time when it's all behind you. You're going to get to your place of self-discovery if you keep looking.

The Thing that's breaking you may be a bridge to your breakthrough.
Bridges are built to create a "way" to get to a place that has no easy access, from one point to another that's usually separated by a kind of chasm, or gap. It may be a body of water, mountains or hills that create the "gap" that needs to be bridged. Your discouragement is somewhat like that gap; between how you presently feel to the place on the other side of it where you feel stronger, more courageous and over it. It's a gap, a valley, a chasm, that requires that a bridge is built to get from where you are "breaking" to your breakthrough. You build it by allowing yourself to become the constructor of your thoughts and actions. Your thoughts must become a kind of piece by piece part of the structure; you see that on the other side of the gap is the rest of the way forward. Each thought is a "part" of your structure, and they are specifically named faith, hope, strength, wisdom and courage. Those "parts" can build a sturdy, unwavering bridge to the other side of things for you, to your breakthrough.

Just because there is no view doesn't mean there is no window.
For all of us, it's easier to go somewhere if we can see where we're going, right? But not so much when absolutely nothing is in view. However, you learn that just because there currently isn't a view, that doesn't mean that there is no window. When we are discouraged, things can feel and look foggy or dark. It becomes difficult to see past our emotions. Those emotions are good at clouding our perspectives, and for sure they can cloud our direction. But, that is exactly all that they are: clouds that are blocking our view of better days ahead.

Always keep in mind that clouds clear up. The sky eventually opens up with brilliant hues of blue and bright sunshine. In the same way, our emotional clouds will clear up and the "windows" in our minds appear, and we begin to see clearly once again. We can see where we are. We can see what's ahead. We can see the possibilities. We can see where we're going. Oftentimes, we can even see into the future, our futures. It's only a matter of time and effort. When you tell yourself it's time to move forward and when you make the effort to go face-forward, I can assure you that you're going to have a beautiful view of the extraordinary things that life has in store for you going forward. ~ S.R.F.


Wednesday, March 15, 2017

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

You Can Do It

Sometimes we have been so conditioned by our negative environments and conditions that we can miss the opportunity to explore our own potential. Fortunately, we can break down those barriers that stump and stall us, and breakaway from that false way of thinking:

Commit to change. Whatever you know needs to happen to make you happier, do it. Plan it. Make it happen. Your negative thinking will continue to win your battles if you don't DO SOMETHING.

Shut down negativity and naysayers. There are always well-meaning people in our lives who tend to say the wrong thing and offer the wrong kind of support. We live with them. We work with them. They show up on the way to our dreams and destinies. It's senseless to react negatively. You're disappointed that they don't understand. You're hurt by what they say. You're second-guessing your decisions. Save that energy. It's put to better use when you apply it to your goals. Everyone won't get it, and that is okay.

Remove the barriers in your way. Fear. Uncertainty. Procrastination. These are all blocks to our achievements and success. Fight the fear in small steps. Make the call. Write the email. Make the inquiry. Talk to someone. Overcome uncertainty by knocking on a door. Research things. Learn what you need to know. Don't wait for a perfect time. Anytime is a great time to move the barriers. Once you get those out of the way, you will see your way forward a lot better.

Keep the vision. Keep the faith. Whenever it feels hard, or whenever you get discouraged, say "I can do this" over and over and over again. Picture it. Smile about it. Think about the finish line and what that is going to feel like. The vision say it's possible. Faith says "Yes, it is." ~S.R.F.

  

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

The Sun Is Shining Somewhere

Let the Sunshine In

I won't make it sound like cloudy days are easy to get through. Sometimes they are not. When we feel gloomy, for whatever reason, it can be hard to shake.

Life is like that, it's a matter of fact. Some days are wonderful, and some days suck. Things may not seem like they're going your way. You may be lonely. You may be in a crisis, or in grief. Whatever the cause, there is also a remedy, and it's within ourselves.

I've learned that I have to take responsibility for moving my clouds out of the way. If a situation or circumstance doesn't change, I understand that I have an option to come up with solutions or not. If I don't come up with solutions, nothing changes. Clouds linger. Dreariness looms and there is no opening for the sunshine to peer through. 

However, if I take courage and do what's necessary to move those clouds, the atmosphere in my life changes, often sooner than later. You see, somewhere on the inside of us there is some sunshine, even when it appears there isn't. It's there, above those clouds that we have let dominate our days.

Look within. Push through those clouds, the pain, the hurt, the challenge. When you do, you make room for the sunshine in your mind and heart to come through with some self-love to embrace, a happy, healthy thought or two, or a bright dash of wisdom that breaks through the dimness. Opening your heart to the sunshine can be akin to opening your blinds and curtains after a hard rain. You can see a little light peeking through, but when you open the curtains wide, the sunshine floods in.

I encourage you to not spend another minute under the gloom. Above those dreary thoughts and feelings is a burst of sunshine ready to change how you feel, how you see things and to bring you into many, many brighter days. Let the sunshine in. ~ S.R.F.


Sunday, January 1, 2017

It's The New Year! Are You Ready?

Ready! Re-DO! Reset!

Ready or not, here it is! Another New Year has rolled in! It didn't catch us by surprise though, did it? We've been thinking over a few things that we would like to see happen in 2017 and beyond, right? 

Many people make resolutions, whether we call it that or not. The new year usually will inspire thoughts of looking ahead to the things that will make life better and more fulfilling. So, in response to all the talk about "out with the old, in with the new" stuff, we reflect on the things we may want to "re-do" or reset. The New Year is a paradigm for change, and opportunity to challenge ourselves to continue transforming our lives and growing into our best selves:

See your potential. It's in your head. It's in your heart. The "new" change you want to make. The "new" thing you want to do. The "new" direction you want to take. You can do it. If it's in your head and heart, that's the first indication that you're ready. Now, it's in your hands to start the process.

Remember, the old way may not work. Maybe you tried something and quit last year. Maybe you quit because a different plan could possibly have worked better for you? Try again, and consider a different strategy, a "re-do" of your way of getting to your ideal results. This time, perhaps, using a new plan better suited to your comfort levels, and your life.

Reset daily. There are at least 365 opportunities to "reset" your mindset on the goal. Everyday, start your process with a new attitude about it. Yesterday was yesterday. Today requires new energy and new focus. When you hit your own reset button, it means you're intending to start with fresh eyes on the goal each day, a fresh consciousness as you proceed toward it, and fresh feelings of inspiration about achieving it. If you were tired, frustrated or disappointed yesterday, start "new" today, tomorrow and again, and again. Each day you can! 
~ S.R.F.


Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Faith Is Knowing God's Got You

"My own issues hardly mattered anymore.
 I really did know that I'd get through
them. I just didn't know exactly how."

I asked God "Is this really happening?"

Optimism comes easy for me, even when things look their dimmest. I've lived a life of faith and practiced positive thinking for so long that I'm deeply rooted in both, in both my heart and my head. With that being said, to say that 2015 was the hardest year of my life isn't an understatement. It's not a complaint. It's not negative thinking. It's just the plain, simple, unfortunate truth. One challenge after another seemed to meet me face-to-face last year, with hard and very severe,  life-shattering blows.

It all began in late 2013 when my daughter was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer. Consumed with a combination of faith and worry, I was standing firm as a mother, but devastated on the inside to see how she was unexpectedly catapulted into fighting the biggest battle of her life. As I mentioned, at the same I was barely pulling through a time of crisis myself after a series of events that literally knocked the breath out of me and pulled the rug right from under my feet. Even the best laid plans can change, and they had for me also. I was fighting for my own life, too, in an entirely different way. Even so, my own issues hardly mattered to me anymore. I really did know I'd get through them, I just didn't know exactly how. What mattered now was that my daughter was sick, and everything took a back seat to that.

I had recently finished my book and had such wonderful plans in the works for my launch. I was so proud and excited about this accomplishment, until the news of my daughter’s illness took over every bit of my existence. I had lost her twin sister many years ago when they were just little girls, in a tragic car accident. So, now I'm looking up at Heaven and asking "Is this really happening"? It was, and it was happening at the speed of light. 

I'm a fighter, and during that time I functioned best on my knees, praying fervently and constantly. The world around me was crumbling in my hurt and despair for my daughter's tough, new journey. I knew somehow I'd survive my stuff, but this ravaging diagnosis was saying she wouldn't. She had just made so many positive changes for herself after working at a company for many years, and she was about to live out her dreams in the sun and warmth of California. But, everything changed with that one statement: “It’s cancer”. 

Truth is, that news changed the lives of all of us who loved her so dearly and who found it so difficult to watch her fight this disease. Our hearts were broken, and our lives were broken when we lost her. She passed away in May of 2015. She was a real warrior until the end, refusing to die, until God said,  “It’s okay, Nikki. You can rest now.”   Her spirit departed, but her presence stayed. I read these beautiful words just this morning from my "Streams in the Desert" devotional, and they explain in the best way what I mean:

Death doth hide, but not divide; 
Thou are but with Christ on the other side!
Thou art with Christ, and Christ with me; 
In Christ united still are we.  

Yes, this is how I find my greatest comfort. My daughters are with Christ, and Christ is with me. It's almost the end of 2016 now, and I have been allowing myself the solitude I've needed to rest, and to restore my life back to some kind of really good "normal". It hasn't been easy. Like I said, 2015 was truly tough. It was equivalent to being hit by a Mack truck, then trying to make a comeback after lying in coma and being in critical condition all at the same time. I'm thankful, because I do know that many people find it difficult to survive the kind of things I've been through. It's only by God's grace and through faith that I have.

Believe me when I tell you, I'm blessed. I'm so grateful that I've gotten a lot of the rest that was really vital for me this year. I'm still here and I'm still in it to win it. My hopes and dreams are still alive and well. My restoration is still a work in progress, but I'm getting there. I have great peace, and great solace knowing that my girls are resting in heaven. Rest, indeed, Sweet Angels. Yes, faith is knowing God’s got you, and knowing He's got me, too. That's not just optimism, that's the truth. ~ S.R.F.

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Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Are You Running From Change?

Roll or Run?

Change. The word itself stirs up feelings of discomfort. We fear it. We curse it. We dread it. We run from it. While running and hiding sounds like a great idea, sometimes you gotta look that change in the eye and roll with it:

C: . Life is calibrating when change occurs. Yes, it is often hard to deal with. You may feel disillusioned. You may feel disconnected. You may feel discouraged. Find it in yourself to get the determination to face it.

H:  Hang on! You've got to go through it, so grab the bull by the horns. Sometimes the ride turns out to be less traumatic than you thought it would be.

A:  You'll adjust. Adjusting can take time, a lot of time. That's okay. Stay the course. Change itself is not unusual, it's just full of all kinds of unusual adjustments that will take some getting used to.

N: Don't let negative thinking or attitudes win. You may want to throw fits, but that won't help anything. Stay focused. Look for the light at the end of the tunnel. It's there.

G:  There will be gain. Something good can come from the change. On the other side you will find greater understanding and purpose if you look for it. Look for it.

E:  Rest assured, eventually you will have a "new normal". How good or bad that will be is totally dependent on your attitude while you're going through the change. You can run, but you can't hide. If you roll with it, you'll always have the winning edge. ~ S.R.F.