Monday, July 13, 2009

GET OFF THE PORCH!

ARE YOU LISTENING?
Seriously...have you been listening?

Do you know what separates the "BIG DOGS" that sniff out every opportunity from the meek-hearted little "PUPS" that stay on the porch, sleeping and letting life slip by? Well, you need to know!

BIG DOGS are alert and listening. They run after opportunity. They hear the call to rise. They love the sweet smell of success!

You need to join the pack of listeners who have their nose on the path and their ears peeled back for info! If you missed the "BUT" kick-off and "PLUG INTO YOUR POWER," just go to our show page and click on "previous episodes" to listen!

Don't make excuses! GET OFF THE PORCH! You know you want to run with the big dogs. You know you want more out of life. And, you know you deserve it!

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Friday, July 3, 2009

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You Need Your "BUT" Kicked!

If you've been dragging your "but" for a while, chances are you may be feeling a little uncomfortable. Let's say it together: OUCH!

You daydream. You imagine. You yearn. You long for a certain something, "BUT" you think it's impossible. You think it's too late. You think it's too difficult. You think it's too big. If you feel this way, your "but" is hurting! Your "but" is hurting your progress, your "but" is hurting your chances of success.

Perhaps, it's hurting any chance of you making a decision to look at the possibilities of bringing your dream to fruition. Or, getting in the way of you realizing their is still enough time to do the special things you've put off. Your "but" may be blocking the understanding that you can overcome the difficulty of the climb to success. Your "but" may be in the way of you achieving something, perhaps, extraordinarily big.

Your excuses, however real they may appear, will continue to cause you to procrastinate. Unfortunately, too many people end up taking their desires to be more and do more with them to their graves, never having pursued them. That doesn't have to be you. That big ol' "but" needs to be kicked out of the way!


Here's a few ideas to consider:


Look at life as opportunistic. Chances are that whatever it is you are wanting to do, it really is possible. Someone once said, "there are no more impossible dreams." Whatever it is, you can do it!

Look at life with optimism. Optimism is choosing to take a positive point of view. If your"but" is blocking that point of view, your "but" is too big. Move your big "but" and get a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, then go after it.

Have a "YES I CAN" attitude! Overcoming obstacles is a part of achieving most successes. Don't let them distract, discourage, disappoint you to the point of giving up. They really help to build up your motivational muscle. Keep moving!

Make a commitment to take action. We must make a commitment to ourselves to plan, pursue and follow through until we reach our goals. Remember, no one can see them through but you. Absence of commitment can create patterns of drifting, while committment will multiply your chances of accomplishment.

Have faith in yourself. It is not unusual to have feelings of apprehension, and to be somewhat unsure of yourself. However, you must move confidently, ready to conquer every little whisper of fear or hesitation.

Do not give yourself permission to quit. Quitting is not allowed unless under unusual or catastrophic circumstances. Otherwise, even when things are weighing you down, you're feeling the pressure, the climb up the ladder is getting tougher and tougher, take a breathe-er, however, don't quit.


Taste the success. If you can see yourself skinnier, wealthier, more educated, in a better career or position, achieving more, making a difference or making a name for yourself, hold to that vision. Think about it. Meditate on it. Talk about it. See it, and what it will mean in your future. Make it real in your mind. Our thoughts are the keys to our destiny. See and taste the success in your thinking!

After all, is there any real reason that you can't do what you dream of?  No more excuses, Okay? NO MORE "BUT"S!


S.R.F.

IN YOUR BUSINESS Solving Workplace Worries

Much Ado About Nothing

I work next to someone who seems to be doing much of nothing during the day. She talks on the phone a lot and is away from her desk for long periods of time. It bothers me because I have so much to do, and I am always under pressure to get it done. Honestly, I resent it, and that makes things even worse. What should I do?


L.R., Claims Adjuster
Kansas City, Kansas

Dear L.R.:

You could try asking for help with your workload. Maybe start with a light task to test her response. You may find that she is very willing to assist you. She may be as bored as you are resentful.
Since you work so closely together, I am assuming that you work on related tasks. Soliciting help when needed is a part of working together as a team. Ask politely "If you have time, can I get you to help me with this?" Hopefully, her answer will be "Yes."
S.R.F.

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SKIN CARE:

The Whole Truth and
Nothing But The Truth
Do you really want to know the secret to having great looking, healthy and youthful looking skin? The truth is: faithful, tender loving care.
The Proof
You could pay a million dollars for a promise of wrinkle softeners, and various other product "guarantees," but I tell you a truth: the proof is not in the product alone. It's how conscientious you are in the proper treatment of your skin.

Good skin care produces good-looking skin. Here are a few tips:

  • Treat your skin as gently as you would a baby's bottom. Always be gentle with your skin. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, EVER pull, tug, stretch, pinch or pick at it. NEVER.

  • STOP rubbing your eyes. This causes more lines, wrinkles, bruising and discoloration that you can imagine. The skin around your eyes is ultra-thin and very easily damaged. If your eyes itch or tire, you probably rub them a hundred times a day. Try this: STOP THE RUBBING for five days. You will be amazed at the healing, the clearer color, and the disappearance of the discoloration around your eyes. In many cases, those "bags" are bruises and swelling from all that rubbing!

  • Invest in skin care products (inexpensive products are fine) and use them faithfully. Wash gently, rinse extremely well, tone and moisturize, twice a day at least. The regimen is the same for men and women.
  • MEN ONLY: After shaving, apply witch hazel, and moisturize LIGHTLY with natural aloe vera before you apply your aftershave or cologne. You will enjoy the results of better looking and better feeling skin in the long term.
  • If you have discoloration or spotty areas on your face, use a little hydrogen peroxide on a cotton pad and wipe those areas at least once daily.
  • Once or twice a week, prick open a vitamin E capsule, spread the oil onto your face. Apply a warm cloth to your face about three or four times, for about a minute. Then, wipe off the excess. This stimulates your skin, opens your pores, adds moisture and the natural properties of vitamin E into your skin.
  • Treat yourself to an expert if necessary, but remember, for the best care in the long run, it's in your own hands. That's the truth.
S.R. F.

YOUR SELF- ESTEEM


LONELY HEARTS CLUB: MEMBERSHIP CANCELLED


Are you lonely? Yearning for some company, companionship, some stimulating connections? Really...?

Well, here's some news: there are too many things to do, and too many people to know to allow yourself to feel that way! Loneliness is a feeling, but if you let it become a way of life, one of these ol' mornings you are going to wake up with your better days having passed you by. It's true.

You should wake up, alright. Wake up now, rather than later, and smell the possibilities. Don't join the Lonely Hearts Club just yet. It has way too many members already. Cancel any thought of joining.

Try making an agreement with yourself to not listen to another "living all alone" sad song. Stop having pity parties. It may be time for you to swing to the beat of a different dance, to sing the words of a new song, to seek out some entertainment outside the "walls" you have put around your life.

Feelings of loneliness hurt. The loneliness seems so real. So, before you start reaching out, reach within first, and start working on that lonely heart condition in ways that you and only you can help yourself; in ways that only you can aid in healing yourself; in ways that you and only you can love yourself. Look in the mirror. You're special, and worthy of all of the self-love and self-esteem in the world. Say these words aloud: "I love myself. I love myself. I love myself!" That wasn't so hard, was it?

Now is a good time for you to meet the challenge of love vs. lonely: you against yourself, the positive choices against the negative introspection. The loneliness can overtake you only if you let it. It can overtake you only if you don't fight it.

The condition won't disappear until you try to beat it. Strategies for whipping loneliness are simple: Getting up, getting your mind made up, getting going and getting involved. Get it? Good.

S.R.F.

Monday, June 1, 2009

Oh, Mr. President! Smooches!

This is just so CRAZY COOL!

The little guy in the picture is my third-generation cousin, Christian. My guess is that you probably already know who the other guy is!

Apparently, during his campaigning, he made a stop in South Bend, Indiana, where some of my relatives live. (I was there recently for my uncle's homegoing ceremony, and afterwords some of my cousins and I were reminiscing over old and new photos and they showed me this article). Anyway, Little Christian was there that day wearing his "Babies For Obama" T-shirt. Who would notice, especially in a thick crowd of Obama T-shirt wearing supporters? Well, our President did! He made the comment "that's a cute baby" while looking over the crowd, sporting that big smile and in his typical charming, humorous manner. Who knew what would happen next?

Well, my cousin Camesha, Christian's mother, kind of lost it, realizing that the then Senator had noticed her child in the crowd, after mentioning that he had shaken millions of hands and kissed a million babies. She raised Christian up high in the air and screamed, "pass my baby down there!" Yeah, she really did.

O.K. Now get this picture: little Christian is literally being passed from raised hands to raised hands until he reaches the security guys who then give the baby to President Obama. Well, the picture tells the rest of the story! He then plants a big smooch right on Christian's cheek! Now, tell me if that is not just CRAZY COOL!


For more on the story that appeared in the South Bend Tribune, here's the link:

http://gallery.pictopia.com/southbendtribune/gallery/72473/photo/7474873/?o=25


S.R.F.

IN YOUR BUSINESS Solving Workplace Worries


Is Work a Pain In The Neck?

I have been on my job for only a few months, and I am in a position that I am usually on the phone all day. I hug the phone to my ear with my shoulder while I am talking so I can continue to use my hands while I take my calls. The problem is that I suffer now from severe neck pain and I may have to file for workman's compensation as a result. I am concerned about how to handle this properly. I don't want to jeopardize my job. Do you have any suggestions?


H. N., Customer Relations
Arlington, Texas


Dear H. N.:
First of all, you should be using a headset. Your employer has the responsibility to supply this equipment for the ease and comfort of doing your job. I suggest you request the headset, and give yourself time to let the muscles in your neck re-adjust before you consider filing a compensation claim.
If you have sustained some permanent injury, that's something that definitely warrants taking a formal approach to getting time off to heal. However, I think you may discover that you simply have pain in the neck from using improper phone equipment. You will probably feel better very shortly, once you are using the headset regularly instead.
Hope that helps!


S.R.F.

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EVERYBODY ON YOUR FEET!

Most of us don't give feet the special love and care they deserve. They hit hard ground hundreds of times a day under the pressure of body weight, most often in enclosed shoes, and for us ladies, often inches off the ground.

Sometimes the results are sore, aching, tired feet, fallen arches, corns, callouses, and GRIEF! Alas, there is help you can give yourself to make your walk through life a little easier:

1. After coming out of your regular shoes, find a comfortable place to sit. Put your feet up if possible. Scrunch your feet and toes tightly for ten seconds, then stretch them out for ten seconds, then relax. Repeat the exercise for five to ten minutes.

2. Use a glass soda bottle, exercising one foot at a time, roll the bottle underneath your foot from the tips of your toes to heels. This is great for relieving the tension in your feet.

3. A good old hand massage for feet is very effective for ridding yourself of the kinks. This exercise can be performed by another party. Oh joy!

4. Regular pedicures can help eliminate odd toenail growth that can cause significant pain.

5. Visit a foot doctor. If you have foot discomfort that is unusual and persistent, you may need medical advice and attention.

These are just a few remedies. Regular care gets the best results. And, remember, too, there is nothing like the feeling of a plain old-fashioned hot water soak! Add a little epsom salt, and you're good to go!

S.R.F.

YOUR SELF ESTEEM

DON'T HATE ME 'CAUSE I'M WALKIN' TALL

Are you jealous of other people? Do you find that some encounters fill you with envy and irritation, and that you have feelings of disdain, or even hatred that seems to surface when you're in their presence? Do some people make you feel intimidated and insecure because of how good they feel about themselves?

Of course, if the answer is yes, yes, and well...yes, then we need to talk. Let me tell you a story:

When I was a young girl, my mother gave me some very wise guidance. She told me not to waste my time being jealous of other people. Her words were strong words of caution, if not an intended warning to help me understand the importance of developing my own identity and not worrying about someone else's.

My Mother told me that we are all born with the same capabilities, and what one person chooses to do with himself/herself, his/her resources and gifts, is entirely up to them, and for another individual to be mad or jealous because of nicer clothes, better looks or more confidence was ridiculous. Actually, she considered it more than ridiculous. She said it was stupid. During this mother-daughter moment, she dared to teach me that the issue and effort of my self-esteem was up to me and not to be based on evaluations and comparisons that stemmed from envy. She said that you lose yourself, your own identity, who you are and what you can become when you allow jealousy and envy to take away from your own self interest. She said that it was a waste of energy that could be better used on something important, like myself.

I got this lecture laid on me when I had gone to my mother with what I thought was a pretty important issue. My concern at the time was that I had requested a pair of new shoes, shoes that no money was available to buy for me. We just didn't have the money, and even though the shoes that I had to wear were really worn, the issue of new ones was not a priority. In case you are wondering, yes, this was during a time when parents didn't buy 30, 40 and 50 pairs of shoes for their children.

I tried to explain to my mother how important this was to me, because all the other girls at school looked so nice. I wasn't jealous of any of them, I don't think, but I was truly embarrassed about the condition of my shoes. You would have to know my mother to know the look she was giving me: that "you're kidding, right? slanty-eyed look", just before she began to state (or maybe it was more like yelling) her firm objections and frustrations toward me regarding my request.

Her perception of my argument was that I was jealous, and making unnecessary comparisons of what I didn't have to what others did have. She really went off, telling me that I was never to compare myself to anyone. She said, "hold your head up and walk like you have on new shoes." She went on to tell me that there would be many a time in my life when you will have to hold your head up and walk like you've got it together when you really don't. She said wearing new shoes in one thing, having pride in yourself regardless is another.

Well, from that day to this one, I've never wasted the precious time that she suggested that I use on myself. My mother was absolutely right. She was a living example. If you could have seen her always dressing as nice as we could afford, you would not have guessed the hardships she had come through. She walked tall in spite of it all.

Her clothes were always sharp and crisply pressed, and so was her attitude about herself. She may not have stood out in a crowd, and most folks maybe would not have seen her as anyone special. But the wonderful thing is that she carried herself like she was, and in her own mind, she knew enough to walk like she was indeed very special, and beyond comparison.

S.R.F.

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